Three Babies and My Wedding

Five of my Bridesmaids and I at my Bridal Shower - Photo by SBJ Photography

Marissa & I at my Bridal Shower - Photo by SBJ Photography

Our venue was booked, the date was picked and our photographer’s deposit had been paid. I gave each of my bridesmaids gifts asking them to stand next to me on November 8, 2019 as I married the love of my life, to which they all said yes! Everything was running smoothly in my planning, how could it not? I am a wedding planner and know better than anyone how to throw an amazing wedding. That all changed on a rainy March night when Marissa, (Matron of Honor #1) came over to my apartment for dinner. She sat on my couch about to burst into tears asking me to sit with her. I immediately asked who died, to which she said “no one, but you might want to kill me after you hear what I have to say.” One million things ran through my mind as I sat next to her on my over sized extra long couch. “I’m pregnant” she said, as tears were rolling down her face. I assured her it was fine and that I was so excited and happy for her, and that she was married and these things happen when you’re married. We laughed for a minute, hugged and then she said, “ I’m due November 4th and won’t be able to make your wedding.”

I paused for a moment and thought to myself, Okay, so my best friend won’t be at my wedding, but there’s an amazing reason why and as much as it sucks to not have her there, we can still facetime and make it work! I also have a 2nd Matron of honor who is fully capable to handle the role on her own. If this is the worst thing to happen, then I’m okay with it and honestly so happy for my friend! I get to be an Aunt and experience this whole pregnancy thing from the sideline with my bestie which is the coolest part of it all.. or so I thought.

Katie and I at my Bridal Shower - Photo by SBJ Photography

Fast forward two weeks later, I am hanging out with Katie (Matron of Honor #2) and Valerie (Bridesmaid #1) and we decide to go food shopping together. We run into the store, pick up a few items and get back into my car. I throw the car into reverse when Katie tells me to wait. Well this can’t be good. I turn around to the back seat where she is sitting with tears in her eyes and I already know this story all too well. She begins to cry and blurts out “I’m pregnant and due November 6th, I’m so sorry.” Not even a moment later Bridesmaid #1 turns to me and says, “It’s a little early and I’m going to the doctor this week, but I’m pretty sure I’m pregnant too and due in November.” At that point, I turned to the back seat and consoled my MOH, told her it was okay and not to cry. I told both of them how happy I was for them and without realizing, I began to cry. Three out of Seven of my bridesmaids were pregnant and not able to make it to my wedding, which included my two MOHs. Katie says wiping the tears from her eyes, “well at least you have Marissa to be there with you at your wedding”, which made me cry harder, they had no idea she was pregnant yet.

I couldn’t explain why I was crying so hard about them being pregnant until I blurted out, “Marissa is pregnant and can’t come to the wedding either.” To which both ladies were in shock and began to cry more. I’m happy no one walked by my car at this point because it was a sob-fest. I quickly called Marissa and she asked why I was crying, I told her that I told our two friends that she was pregnant and felt bad about ruining that surprise for her. She was totally okay with it and then I explained to her the reason why I suddenly became a blabber mouth. I said “Katie and Val are pregnant and can’t make the wedding either.” She was silent and a moment later said, “Where are you? I’m on my way now.” We told her to meet us at Katie’s house and she did.

As soon as I got to the house I excused myself to the backyard and called my fiance while balling like a two year told who just got their toy taken away from them. He calmly told me it was going to be fine and that this is a blessing for everyone involved, to which I agreed. He told me to call our venue and see if we could have the date moved, as he knew how important it was to have my friends there by my side at our wedding. I couldn’t believe he was being so cool about this and that he was willing to move our entire wedding back a few months just so that my friends could be there. I really was marrying the most amazing man in the world. After a 10 minute call with him I calmed down and went into the house. My three friends were sitting in the kitchen and offered me a glass of wine to which I gladly accepted on their behalf as I now realized I was the only one able to drink for the next nine months! I told them we were changing the date and that I couldn’t possibly get married without the three of them there. This made each one of us cry again, something we were all getting sick of doing that day.

Val and I at my Bridal Shower - Photo By SBJ Photography

That night my fiance and I took our phones out and went through our calendars and picked a date in January that worked best for the two of us, our families and my newly pregnant friends. We called our venue and photographer and made sure the date was free in their books and in our luck it was so we snagged the new date and went on planning the rest of our wedding for January 2020, which worked out even better for us than we thought it would. I can’t wait to marry the man of my dreams and have my best ladies stand next to me and be a part of the most memorable day of my life. And soon *(the next week or so) I will be by their sides welcoming their babies into our friend group and I cannot wait to meet all three of them!

I guess the moral of my story here is when planning a wedding figure out what is most important to you. To me other than marrying my fiance, what was most important were the people there to celebrate this time in my life with. I am so grateful that we were able to move things around to make this happen. In the end you will always deal with challenges in planning a wedding, whether it be the flowers you want are out of season or the wedding dress was ordered in the wrong shade of ivory or your three bridesmaids form some sort of pregnancy pact without you! Either way, you can always figure a way around it. Just know that at the end of the day you have a partner who will move mountains to make you happy and that’s really all we can ask for in life.

Oh and as a side note: I had my bachelorette party in July so all the ladies could be there, bellies and all. Here are some extra photos of us at my weekend in the Hamptons at my #BRAClorette. Sorry for the bad quality, they’re iphone photos before that fancy new one came out with the amazing camera.